“MAKE YOUR PEACE WITH THE FACT THAT SAYING “NO” OFTEN REQUIRES TRADING POPULARITY FOR RESPECT” ― Greg McKeown
All men need respect. It’s in our nature. Respect for men is very different from being liked or the respect that women can feel towards each other.
We have our own code, something that has been developed over thousands of years of seeing who can take ownership and lead the people around them. It’s a relatively simple code.
For men, subconsciously the only true way you respect someone is if you would be willing to do battle with them. Is this someone you can trust to have your back? Are they big and strong, or skinny and weak?
Often you can size up another man in a microsecond and determine if he is worthy of your respect. The first step is they must be physically able to kick ass or at least give a run for their money. Men are primal in nature. In many ways we aren’t too many steps above Gorillas and Chimpanzees. There the top leader is usually the biggest and strongest their troop has to offer.
This isn’t fair, but it is reality. If you weren’t born big and strong then it is extra important for you to be working out and getting bigger as well as taking martial arts. Conor Mcgregor isn’t a ‘big’ man but he knows how to command himself and is worthy of many mens respect for him.
Respect equals power for men. Power is also seen in money which is important in this dynamic. Women respect men with money. To them money equals power and power equals sex.
Men can respect other men for making money but it’s not the same. Recall back to any of your old bosses that made a lot more money than you. They have garnered some respect from you but if you’re bigger than he is you’re subconsciously thinking “I could kick his ass and take all his money”. This is not something we really do in this day and age however there are a few examples in pop culture.
The two that come to mind is the movie Pain and Gain, with Dwayne the Rock and Mark Wahlberg. Two muscular big guys are living life but have no money. They see a weaker Jewish man who had made a lot of money and conspire to take it all away from him. Eventually they get caught and go to jail and for all intents and purposes I wouldn’t recommend this movie as an example of what to do but it is what happens when you have money but can’t take care of yourself.
Another reference is in the show Norsemen. Early into the show, as I haven’t seen too much of it, there is a part where a big and strong Viking named Arvid comes back from raiding and determines that he has nothing and wants more. In their law and culture you must be able to fight and defend yourself and your property so he challenges a weak but relatively wealthy merchant in his village to a duel. The merchant doesn’t want to fight but he must in order to retain his property. The fight is over almost instantly as Arvid cuts him in half with one swoop of his sword. He now owns the merchant’s property, money, and his wife. This is just in a tv show but I assure you all powerful men throughout history have been doing this. Powerful men take what is theirs.
Every great leader, warlord, president has had to become adept at taking the resources from other nations and tribes. The classic battle between the “haves” and the “have nots”. The rich and poor.
Money can do many great things. But if you’re cornered on the street by a bigger man, money suddenly becomes a bunch of worthless paper. That other man does not respect you and is determined to take what he believes is his. This isn’t right but it is a reality of our world. The strong prey on the weak. It’s always been this way and will continue throughout the rest of nature.
So take my advice. Become big and strong.
Eat more, workout daily, study martial arts like Muay Thai and Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. This should be in direct alignment with your other goal of becoming wealthy. Attack both at the same time. For me I train BJJ at least 2-3 times a week and go to the gym another 2 days minimum. At the present time of writing this I work physically outside on roofs and houses where I can make $300-1000 a day and burn a hell of alot of calories doing so.
Always be working making money but also always be training your body.
Pay attention to how you feel when you are wearing a t-shirt that makes your chest and biceps bulge under it. Notice how other men treat you. Oftentimes if it’s a party and I walk in, other guys will always come up to me and introduce themselves first. Men pay their respects to those bigger than them.
This is also why I’ve never had an issue with any father of the woman I’m with at the time. Since age 15 I’ve always been working out and have always gotten respect for it. People quickly stop picking on you if they’re smart once they know you are more powerful than them.
Another thing to be aware of. Smaller unfit men will see you as a threat. Many will hate you for it as well such as Internet trolls, who are all scrawny and weak losers. They hate you because as they say “they love me so much they hate me”.
But all people respect discipline. It takes discipline to look like a greek god and discipline to make a lot of money. Some people are haters on you for this but they actually hate themselves because they know they could have what you do but don’t because they haven’t put in the time or work to get it.
Keep doing you. Get big, strong, and wealthy, and don’t worry about being ‘liked’ or ‘popular’. Chase the power, and respect will come.
- Spencer